So I made my eldest daughter cry this week. I picked them up from Gymnastics and when they got in the car my eldest daughter verbalized her frustrations. "Mom Gina yelled at me tonight because I wasn't doing my turns right." Now, I am her mother and I should have responded differently but I said: "Good I am glad because that means she is pushing you." I felt the death glare coming from the back seat and she continued to share her frustrations with and I continued to say that it was a good thing. The problem was she was tired, eleven, and didn't have the tools in her emotional toolbox to hear what I was saying and so we hugged I told her I loved her and she went to bed. The next day I apologized to her and tried to again explain to her that I didn't want to see her comfortable and get stagnant. Growth involves struggle, work, pressure, and sometimes pain. When you are comfortable you stop growing. We don't allow that to dull our senses or