Confrontation to Restoration

Moms Middle School Survival Kit

I am on the phone alot with moms of middle school girls, why? Because it is one of the most socially agressive times in a girls life. Its starts around fourth grade and by the time the hormones kick in, girls are struggling with some deep issues. Cutting, sexuality, identity, community, internal, and external pressures. I hope to help give you tools to begin the conversations with your daughters so that they can learn survival skills. These skills will help them thrive in environments where relational aggression flourishes. As your daughter grows and flourishes she can learn to survive this world a little better. Speak up and Be aware All kids struggle with big feelings, the reason why it is so hard for girls is because their feelings shared, can have a direct effect on their social life. Peer pressure for girls is being empathetic and compassionate. You don't want to stand out becuase then you won't have protection. And for many girls they crumble and diminsh who the...

Collaboration Killers: Comparison

When I was nineteen years old, I tried out for American Idol. Yes, I went to the Browns Stadium in Cleveland Ohio, stayed the night and the next morning I sang in front of producers of the show. As the people were picked, they came up the stairs and sang for the whole crowd. It was an exciting experience as we waited all day to sing in front of producers for 30 seconds and then not be chosen. I tried out the year Carrie Underwood won, and although I did not make it past the first rounds, honestly I wasn't too upset about it. I just wanted the experience of trying out for a singing competition. As I left I saw people crying; they were devastated as all their dreams were crushed. I heard some of them; they were professional grade vocalists, no doubt. But it wasn't what the show was looking for, and so they were not chosen. Not being chosen caused them to cry, to mourn, to have crestfallen looks. ...

Comfort, Conflict, and Contentment

So I made my eldest daughter cry this week. I picked them up from Gymnastics and when they got in the car my eldest daughter verbalized her frustrations. "Mom Gina yelled at me tonight because I wasn't doing my turns right." Now, I am her mother and I should have responded differently but I said: "Good I am glad because that means she is pushing you." I felt the death glare coming from the back seat and she continued to share her frustrations with and I continued to say that it was a good thing. The problem was she was tired, eleven, and didn't have the tools in her emotional toolbox to hear what I was saying and so we hugged I told her I loved her and she went to bed. The next day I apologized to her and tried to again explain to her that I didn't want to see her comfortable and get stagnant. Growth involves struggle, work, pressure, and sometimes pain. When you are comfortable you stop growing. We don't allow that to dull ...

Cassie's Nimble Nuggets

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